7.01.2014

The Pros and Cons of Planning Your Own Wedding


                  Planning your own wedding can be both exciting and stressful.  Even if you are immune to event planning, planning your own wedding involves emotional investment that might be too much for a blooming bride on her wedding day.  More so if you have parents, relatives or in-laws who are more excited than you… or worse, want to do things their way, forgetting that it is supposed to be the celebrating couple’s big day. 
Given the delight and sometimes the horrors of planning a wedding, here are some things to consider:

Pros

·       Perhaps the major cost saved by planning your own wedding is that which could have been paid to a wedding planner.  If you have relatives or friends who are good at organizing and coordinating, you could brief them a few days before the wedding of what you have planned so they can do the coordination on the wedding day itself; you will be free and confident to be the blushing bride.

·   Planning your own wedding allows you to choose the outcome according to your taste.  Sometimes, even if you communicate with a wedding planner, there could be some misconceptions or wrong assumptions.  In essence, your wants could get “lost in translation.”

·       Planning your own wedding adds a personal touch to it.  A wedding planner often takes a cookie-cutter approach to wedding planning.  You, on the other hand, can make it more personalized and unique.  Changing or modifying a program to incorporate your, your groom’s, your parents’ or in-laws’ quirks can make the occasion more memorable.

Cons

·       A disadvantage to planning your own wedding, especially if you don’t have relatives or friends who are good at anticipating your needs as well as those of the crowd, is the seeming nightmare the whole production can be.  This is so true if you’re speaking of a large crowd and you have relatives or in-laws who might upstage you or other relatives who might just be trying to help.

·       You could look haggard on the big day even if you have taken great lengths to take your beauty sleep and all other beauty regimens.  The stress you may be feeling days before and on the day itself could show on your face.  You tend to look more worried rather than dashing.  Worse, your guests might get the impression that you are not happy with the groom or the wedding party.  You also won’t be able to focus on the current moment because you are worried that the next part of the wedding program might not go as well as you planned or hoped.   

·       Doing away with a wedding planner may limit your choice of vendors.  Wedding planners often have a broad network of suppliers which you may not know of.  Such vendors might be able to give discounts to a wedding planner as a sort of commission for the business and the amount, even if it’s small, could add up to the savings you may get.  Conversely though, a wedding planner may also opt for an expensive vendor.

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